Anon: My boyfriend and I have been dating for nine months. I asked him to go to the movies and he wants to pay. But I think I should pay because I asked him. He’s says he should pay because he’s the guy. Who’s right? Who should pay?

Dear Anon,

The way I see it is there really isn’t a right or wrong person here.

It’s the new age; the idea of the guy always paying is old fashioned. Girls are able to pay for things now in relationships too.

If he wants to pay then let him, but he shouldn’t have to pay just because he’s the guy. If you want to pay because you offered the idea then you pay if you want.

If anything you guys can just split the cost of going to the movies and call it equal. You can also take turns paying one day you pay the next time he does.

–M. Switch

Anon:  What is the best advice you have for handling a break up?

Dear Anon,

It can depend on the person and the length of the relationship on how well you can handle it and what you can do to handle it.

Break ups are hard I understand that and it can take some time to get over it, however realize this.

A break up is just another person out of the way leading you to your true love. Dating is just a trial and error for the real thing. Figure out who you might want to spend life with, fine tune what you want.

Hang out with friends, keep your mind busy and off of the break up. Some ways to cope is just do things you enjoy like, reading, taking a walk, take a bath, listen to music, or even just write in a journal. If you see the person just smile don’t let it ruin a friendship that could still happen. Just because you’re not dating doesn’t mean you can’t be friends.

Go ahead and if you’re feeling worn down like you want to cry because of it just go ahead and cry. Let it out and feel at peace with the fact it ended. Then go have fun, and don’t let something like that ruin things for you.

Learn from the relationship. Learn what all is good and bad in it and keep it in mind for when another one comes around. But don’t rush into a new one right away, take time for yourself and ease into a new one when ready.

–M. Switch